It’s the People, Not the PlaceMar 12th, 2013 | By Mookee | Category: Blog, Opinion
I have realized something I can remember my dad talking about since I was young, something that my brother said in a speech he gave when he won an award, probably sometime around the time I was 11 or 12. When all is said and done you can accomplish a lot on your own. You can climb a mountain, or run a marathon. You can work and work, be successful, help the homeless, and go through life doing some pretty amazing things. At the end of it all, the things you’ll remember are the people and relationships you develop along the way.
For all the independence and individuality we strive to accomplish, as big as we want to become, all the recognition we sometimes strive to get for ourselves, it amounts to very little without people who recognize what we’ve done. Whether that person be a spouse, significant other, family, or a close circle of friends, it all amounts to little without someone to share our victories, support us in our defeats.
Watch any group of teenagers on a trip. Sure, there is likely to be a goal. Maybe it’s a sports team and they’re trying to win a tournament. Maybe it’s a school trip and the goal is to experience a different culture. I would argue that you could put that group into any place on the planet and they would still have a good time. Why? Because they are with their friends.
So remember when you’re sacrificing everything to become more successful at work, at the end of it all you need to share it with someone. If you can’t, then even winning the lottery will seem a bit shallow (granted, you will have many more friends AFTER you win the lottery, but that’s a different post). This in no way means we can’t have individuality, have our own personality, things we like to do ourselves, but it must be remembered in that search for self worth, we are not now, nor will we ever be, alone.